Imperfect Perfectness

You know how they say after a while, dogs and their owners start to look alike? Well, I don’t have a dog (unfortunately.) I do have a blog, though. I recently realized that my blog has started to resemble me in the way that it has encountered a bit of an identity crisis. The personal identity crisis hasn’t stemmed from not knowing what I want, but more from being surprised to see where I’ve landed. Even the fact that I woke up today and had many, many plans, yet still sit here toiling over this silly blog post is something that I’m uncomfortable with. I’m uncomfortable with the idea that I haven’t been amazing today, on my day off. Now, I see this is a time where mindset change is necessary. What does that mean? This. http://www.businessinsider.com/a-psychologist-explains-the-simplest-way-to-be-satisfied-2015-3. Kind of going hand-in-hand with the redefinition of success, this article explains the simplest way to be satisfied in life, and truthfully, some of you (myself included,) may not be comfortable with the answer. But, there is sweet release in this solution. Notice, I’m not telling you what it is. Have to read the article. 5% effort is all that’s required on Sundays. Another annoying nugget of wisdom comes from one of your favorite internet memes: Albert Einstein. The definition of insanity is: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I’m guilty of it. Many people I know and love are guilty of it. I’ve been going about things all wrong. It’s time to try some new approaches, and they are approaches that make me uncomfortable and sigh a lot. But, I’m sick of treading water. albert-einstein-intriging-questions-01 Similarly, this little website has hit a bit of a stall. Remember when I used to write pretty much EVERY day? It was kind of amazing. Slow clap. Now, I struggle to find the time and the inspiration to share things that I find entertaining, interesting, or worthwhile for other people to read. That’s a big responsibility. So, I’ve written nothing. I don’t like writing nothing. I like writing something. Considering all of the new perspective we just acquired, maybe let’s be okay with just writing something. Maybe right now, we just have to get comfortable with the imperfection of it all. What it all really boils down to is fear. We’re scared of failing. Scared of trying. Scared of not trying. Scared of change. Scared of staying the same. Scared of feeling good. Scared of feeling bad. Scared of what people will think. I think what we all need is more of the “Lean Out” mentality. You will love it. It’s from Amy Poehler in her book, “Yes, Please,” and it’s refreshing. In a world of “Lean In,” we are potentially setting ourselves up for a lot of unrealistic expectations and basically- opportunities to fail and feel crappy about it. Amy advises, “Try to care less. Practice ambivalence. Learn to let go of wanting it.” This is not to say that you should stop trying or doing a good job, but caring less about the outcome or what people will think of the outcome, or how you followed the perfect path to get to the outcome. Read the whole idea here. I think we should all try this for a week. Ready, go. (Hit publish, Lindsay.)

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2 thoughts on “Imperfect Perfectness

  1. Zandria says:

    I would encourage you to not feel bad about not posting every day. Even though you may have published daily at one point in time, it’s largely impossible for most people. Blogging is supposed to be about quality over quantity! If you publish a bunch of daily posts without substance, you may end up alienating and losing readers.

    I, too, struggle with the fear of STARTING something. Of thinking there’s a good chance I won’t be any good at it, so why bother? I think there are a lot of people like this, unfortunately.

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